There's not much you can do to discover yourself. Its something you fall into, you wake up days, months, or years later and realize what works for you. Over time I've tried to mimic so many people, their patterns, my older sisters style. Nothing ever worked for me. I recently started experimenting on my own and somedays its great and other days are a bit much, but everyday is me. But when I feel my prettiest, when what I chose to wear flows best I always think of the same person, my mother. She is so alive in me its crazy.